• Olivier S.E. Courtois

Are You A Giver Or A Taker?

Updated: Jun 1

In business as in life, success depends on the state of our relationships account. Just as with a bank account, we make deposits to afford withdrawals. In a new love relationship, for example, we all start by making daily deposits: kind attention, sweet gestures, eye contact, etc. Some of us, unfortunately, gradually forget to make deposits. They end up withdrawing only: lack of time and attention, criticisms, impatience, absence. This is generally the beginning of the end.

Same at work. Some people are 'Givers'. They make deposits, they give their support, their time, they share their experience, they are genuinely interested in the success of their peers, their team, their customers. They do not link their actions to personal short-term benefits.

Others are 'Takers'. Everything they do is conditioned by their personal advantage. They have an agenda. They generally interact with you only when they need something. Of course, it is not always black or white, there are many shades of grey. Takers can be successful for a while. But 'Givers' have an edge. They inspire trust, they engage others, they get more respect and support. In a closed environment, 'Takers' can hold their troops. But in an open and agile world, they lose in the long run.

#Leadership #Egocentrism

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